You probably have many memories of raising your own children. You may remember special milestones, such as their first words, the first visit from the tooth fairy, the way they clutched your hand when the flying monkeys in the Wizard of Oz swooped out of the sky. And now, decades later, you may be reliving those moments again. Except this time, the child in your home is your grandchild.

Millions of children live in households headed by grandparents. These are often called “grandfamilies” or “second families.” Below are some strategies to make second parenthood easier.

You may need help from friends, family, and other grandparents who are raising their grandchildren. Set up a support network that will be available when you need it:

• Ask for help. Other members of your family, community, and circle of friends may want to lend a hand but don't know how. Meet with them and give some specific ideas about the kind of support you or your grandchildren may need. You may need a trusted friend or relative to babysit if your children get sick on a work day if you are still in the workforce while raising grandchildren.
• Look for a support group. You can find online support through AARP. Check the community announcements in your local paper to find groups near you.
• Reach out to community agencies. Talk to the counselor at your grandchild's school about support services. You can also go through your local YMCA, parenting centers, or other family services groups.

Talk with the other adults in your grandchild's world. It can be helpful to talk to day care providers, teachers, doctors, social workers, and others who have had contact with the child. They can help you find out what you need to provide the best care.

About half of households headed by grandparents have no biological parent in the home. That means the responsibility is yours to find the services, education, and support the child needs. Also, grandchildren who live with their grandparents may have more physical, emotional, and mental disabilities than other children. Grandparents may find it harder to get schools and other service providers to pay attention.

Children need a surprising amount of paperwork. Set up a filing system. This will help you keep track of all important documents, medical records, and notes about conversations related to their care, not to mention the vast amount of artwork they will bring home to you.

To see to all of the basic care duties, like getting medical care or registering a child for school, you will need to have the correct paperwork. This includes:

• Birth certificate
• Social security card
• Legal documents giving you guardianship or custody
• Power of attorney or other consent forms from the parents
• Military papers if one or both parents are military and deployed
• Health insurance information if provided by the parents
• Income information to apply for free or reduced-price lunch, for example

Visit www.grandfamilies.org for more information about legal and policy issues that affect grandfamilies.

Many grandparents own their own home. The presence of a grandchild can pose problems if you are living in senior housing. Find out if lease agreements or contracts allow your grandchild to live with you. If not, you may need to find other housing.

Even if you have the best of intentions toward your children and grandchildren, raising grandchildren can be stressful. And, for many people, exhausting. You may feel under so much pressure that you become vulnerable to depression and other stress-related illnesses. It's important to take the time you need to maintain your friendships, keep a job, and take care of yourself. Get treatment for any depression or anxiety so you can be the best caregiver possible for your young loved one.